9 Methods To Master Self-Fulfillment as a Mom

There is no denying it: mothering can be difficult. Maslow's theory places self-actualization as the pinnacle of all human needs; that is, the internal satisfaction of our achievements can only come once all other needs are satisfied.

Internal happiness depends on feeling satisfied with the accomplishment of hopes and aspirations. Moms feel fulfilled when their children grow in empowerment, love, and compassion.

While kids are a joy, they come with challenges - from schedules to sickness, lack of sleep, and school woes.

Sometimes, the frustration and challenges of life are enough to make mothers uncomfortable - and this gets in the way of self-fulfillment.

One of the best ways to achieve self-fulfillment is through developing self-awareness - the ability to become conscious of your thoughts, moods, or behavior.

The guides below will help you develop the skill of self-awareness, and achieve self-fulfillment:

1. Notice your moods. Pay attention to your feelings and mood daily, and identify what makes you smile or frown.

○ Know that you alone control your moods. Once you recognise your feelings, you can create happiness inside you.

2. Listen to your inner voice.

3. Read inspiring books. We all need a regular dose of inspiration to keep our spirits high, and we can find these words in books.

○ Search for books, articles, or publications that interest you and commit to reading habits.

4. Set goals for yourself. Set realistic goals for yourself, allowing you to recognize

change and progress.

○ Look into your life and write down ways you want it to change. For example, one of the most challenging moments for moms is balancing their careers with their new parenting role.

5. Find out where you’re doing well and where you’re underperforming.

○ Find out what is missing and what you would like to improve - ask for feedback from those around you to help.

6. Reflect on life before kids. Think of things that gave you joy before kids; this could be a hobby, a side business, or another interest.

○ Think about those things you will want to continue. Consider how you can incorporate them into your current life. Perhaps take the time to hike each weekend with your children - this allows you to enjoy a hobby while still in “parent” mode!

7. Take action. Now, you have spent enough time on the root cause of your dissatisfaction. The next step is to put an action plan on it.

○ Address one main point at a time and observe results.

8. Start a gratitude journal.

○ Write something about yourself, your kids, your spouse, or your family daily to remind yourself of your fortune.

9. Give yourself time. Relax when the kids are asleep, food is prepared, and all chores are complete.

○ Don’t be that everyday working mother. Get some leisure time as well.

Final Thoughts

Mastering the tips above will yield everlasting fulfillment and allow you to live the life you deserve.